What is visualization and why is it important to your life?
Visualization is the practice in which a person intentionally focuses mental energy on a specific idea, image, or desired outcome for a prescribed amount of time. This is done for the purpose of sending the focused energy out into the quantum field where it can then synchronistically manifest into the life of the visualizer.
How does this work?
First let’s start with the physics perspective of a thought. A thought is a frequency, a vibration. It is ultimately a form with structure. The only reason that the average person cannot ‘see’ a thought wave is because it is too fine of a frequency and our range of vision, the perceptual capability of our eyes cannot pick up on it. This does not mean it is not real. A thought is a thing. Pull up the image in your mind’s eye of a plastic sandwich bag. It is translucent, right? When it’s only one bag, you can easily see through it. Ok now in your mind stack a few more plastic bags on top of that one. Still see through? Yes, but getting a little more opaque. Ok now put 5 more,…10 more…100 bags. Is this stack of bags translucent anymore? No. Why? This is because although it is thin and translucent, it does have structure and eventually, when bound together, the density accumulates and forms something more massive. This is a simple way of explaining how thoughts work in our dimensional reality. So, if you are visualizing, and you spend, say, 15minutes really honing in on one thought or idea and you add emotions to it, pictures, sounds, stories, you are literally building density and next thing you know you have created a real thought structure- a blueprint construction in the template reality. Now this part of your visualization practice is complete and you let it go, you send it out in the universe and allow the quantum field to do its work through synchronicity, allowing it to manifest unto you.
Are there problems with this design?
Well, no not technically. But practically, there are some issues for many of us. For me personally, to sit down every day and spend 15 minutes focusing my mind on just one thing can be extremely challenging. As many of us, I can at times really struggle with the monkey mind. The programmed incessant thought patterns, the distractions of the physical body, and so on. So the issue I am seeing is that we understand the value and importance of visualization, we desire to consciously steer our lives in the direction of our highest preference and joy, and we understand the mechanics of visualization, but in the reality of everyday life we may find it difficult to slow down, sit down, and tune in on one thing specifically for any amount of time.
I have been beating myself up about this for too long and I have realized that meditation practices are just like education. We are beginning to really understand that the major flaw of the public education system lies in its inability or refusal to cater to the individual needs and abilities of the students. Likewise, if each of us has a unique and different personality, life purpose, energy flow, etc., why would we all force ourselves to prescribe to the same type of meditation? When you think of meditation classically, you traditionally think of sitting in lotus silently and completely still with a blank mind. Yet this is only one type of meditation, it can take a very long time to master, and it may not work for everyone.
With these points in mind I have really been downloading some encouraging and empowering information about meditation and visualization practices that I think can really upgrade and revolutionize your spiritual practice in a way that feels lighter, more natural, more fun, more spontaneous, and more powerful.
It is of the UTMOST importance that when you are intentionally sending a message or request into the universe, that you FEEL good. Your state of being is the NUMBER ONE ingredient. So if your current style of visualization feels forced, frustrating, or boring, then THAT feeling is the energy you are sending out the universe! Below are some creative suggestions that have appeared to me as options and tools to put in your toolkit. This is not to say that traditional meditation isn’t powerful or that there are not many more possible ways. I hope that these empower you, inspire you, and help you get in the right state of being to vibrate yourself into the most joyful reality.
1. Visualize spontaneously
Sometimes if I sit down with the structured idea of ‘now I must visualize’ it flops and I am so focused on doing it right that I get very little done. Sound familiar? If so, try another approach. If you are around the house or out and about and your energy is flowing joyfully and naturally and something you see or a person you are interacting with really inspires you or puts you in a state of great joy, utilize THAT energy while it is naturally present. Once you are aware of that non-resistant state, milk it. Feel that energy fill you up, let it expand as big as it can and then let your thoughts create structures within that natural energy you are holding. That is the perfect time to start going through the story in your mind of how your life could creatively and beautifully unfold. Go big! Be totally imaginative. Remember that the universe speaks in frequency and vibration so if the image and the story you are using creates a wonderful feeling of fireworks within you, the universe if listening to that, and will magnify more of that frequency in your life.
2. Tell a story
As aforementioned, the physical mind has the tendency to wander off track, making focused visualization difficult to maintain. Hack the tendency of the physical mind by using language and telling a story. Writing or typing this story is even better. Ask yourself a question like “What does being rich feel like to me?” or “What would I do all day today if I could do ANYTHING I desire?” or “What does the highest expression of me look like, feel like, and act like?” Go journal about it, tell the story out loud to someone else, record yourself speaking it, or make it your status update, inspiring others to do the same. By sharing your vision with many people in your life or replicating it in any way, you are multiplying its broadcasting power. But don’t be connected to the specific story you are telling. As the days go by, the story may morph and grow and evolve. Remember again, it’s the feeling that matters rather than the specifics.
3. Flow with reality
What I mean is- do not FIGHT what is. If you really want to live in the tropics and you are stuck in Ohio, don’t use your current situation as the springboard for your visualization. You will transform nothing by resisting it. I use to try this, it fails utterly. There is no use in beating yourself up when you look around and feel that your current situation is not your desired situation. Acknowledge this, but understand that this may not be optimum moment to visualize your desires. In a moment like this, you may find yourself thinking, ‘I don’t want THIS! I want THAT!’ or ‘I would much rather have x manifestation rather than y’. But this is not coherent language to the universal intelligence. The quantum field does not differentiate the idea of wanting or not wanting, it just reads the feeling of WHATEVER you are talking about. In a moment like this, be gentle on yourself and move onto the next thing
you feel good about. Choose your next opportunity to visualize when you have a moment in which it naturally flows.
4. Life as visualization:
Every wise spiritual teacher from Abraham-Hicks to Bashar has repeatedly recommended one all-important practice of manifesting a joyous accelerated reality; Follow your excitement. This is visualization at its very best, in its most actualized form. When you ACT on the excitement you feel, you are threading those joyful visions of what you desire directly into your experiential reality. This is the completion of the circuit of the creative engine. You think of what you want, you feel it, then an opportunity is there for you to do something that makes you feel good, that feels natural, that feels exciting, and you do it. And it feels great. You are literally choosing, with your thoughts, actions, and emotions to embody the self you have been calling forth. In the rhythm of this creative circuit, it only expands more and more into the infinite joyful experience of you.
So there are four simple ideas that I am sharing with the intention that you will give yourself permission to joyfully focus yourself into your preferred state of being, and that you will thus see your vision and love reflected all around you. These are just a few ideas, so be creative. Notice that the emphasis is on your feelings and frequency. Whatever it is that gets you there, harness those moments of non-resistance to focus your intentions and plant the seeds of your joy.
About the author:
Hi everyone, my name is Laura Weber. While I find it limiting to put a label on any one person because we are all so dynamic and complex, I would be happy to identify myself as a vibrational alchemist. My background includes Massage Therapy, Reiki, writing, and visual art, and last year I published my first book, “2013”, a book of poetry. I believe that each person is an expression of the one creative source, and thus we are all powerful creators. My ritual of daily life includes water and crystal alchemy, writing, birthing various pieces of art, and being the shamama of my magical 3 month old daughter, Anaiya. I am currently channeling my creative energy into my recently launched brand: Earth&Ether Designs where I create energetically activated jewelry and soul adornments. If you resonated with my writing you can follow my creative ventures and cosmic explorations via my Facebook Page or to check out my artwork and jewelry designs check out Earth & Ether Designs on Facebook or my Etsy Shop. Thank you for your light.
The Herbalist Had 23 Wives and Raised More Than 200 Children
He represents a Chinese mystery that can be added to many others. The herbalist Li Ching-Yuen ,was, according to the official records,born in China in 1677 (although he himself claimed that he was born in 1736). Throughout his long life, he constantly practiced herbalism and martial arts.There are documents, dating back to 1827, contained official congratulations on Li Ching-Yuen’s 150th birthday. Later documents, dating back to 1877, contained official congratulations on his 200th birthday.
The Secret of his Potion Formula.
Li Ching-Yuen expressed his longevity formula in one sentence: “Retain a calm heart, sit like a turtle, walk swiftly like a pigeon, and sleep like a dog”.
During his last days he was offered an opportunity by the Chinese army general Yang Senin order to teach martial arts to Chinese soldiers. The general could not believe how youthful Li was, even though he had reached an age of 250 years old.Li Ching-Yuen died on the 6th of May in 1933 after finishing his martial art classes.
Holistic Medicine Should be the Alternative
It becomes a common sense that thoughts have a great influence on people and behaviors; they can be negative or positive. These days, even modern medicine agrees that 70% of all sicknesses happen because of negative thoughts or emotional stress. Illnesses attributed to this cause are called “psychosomatic,”
A long day of high stress is all that is needed to cause unexpected illness. Continuous years of tension at work is all that is needed to develop diabetes or heart disease, needless to mention lowered productivity, deteriorated body and depression.
Ancient medicine was very efficient because it is classified as holistic,It considers not only the physical body, but also of the psycheand personal lifestyle. It irradiates the cause of the illness, rather thandealing only with the symptoms, therefore stopping it from reappearing. However, Modern medicine, on the other hand, deals with the effects of the illness—bodily ailments. This is why the illness is never cured for good.
Thoughts cannot only make the body ill, but can also help it recover from serious diseases.
We can take for instance the case of Morris Goodman, who, in 1981, was involved in a plane crash and was supposed to die due to permanent spine damage and aninjured diaphragm. The man’s life was supported by a breathing ventilator, and the only movement he could do was blinking. However, this man was aware of the power of thought, and in just a few days successfully regenerated his own diaphragm and could breathe independently. He also consciously regenerated his damaged spinal cord and started to move all of his limbs. Doctors could not understand the situation at all because this just “could not be happening.” After a few months, however, Morris Goodman began to walk again and eventually fully recovered. This is only one of many cases that are happening all around us.
Reasons behind Incurable Diseases from Different Perspective
The ancient Ayurvedic health sciences not only prove the existence of psychosomatic illnesses.What your thoughts are able to influence?
Here are a few examples that could explain the causes of disease:
Jealousy – causes cancer diseases, immune system failure.
Vengefulness – causes sleep disorder and throat illnesses.
Restricted irritating situation – causes lung diseases.
Immoral behaviors – causes chronic diseases, infections, and dermal diseases.
Being too categorical or unwavering in beliefs – causes diabetes, migraines, and inflammations.
Lying – causes addiction to alcohol, parasite infections, and failure of the immune system.
Hostility – causes stomach ulcers, acid hearth burns, and verrucas.
Taciturnity – causes schizophrenia and kidney diseases.
Cruel behaviors – causes epilepsy, asthma, and blood deficiency.
Seeking conflicts – causes thyroid enlargement.
Apathy – causes diabetes.
Inconsistency or being fickle – causes infertility.
Being abusive – causes diabetes and heart diseases.
14. Anxiety – causes digestive system disorders, heart, and skin diseases.
15. Greed – causes tumors, fatness, and heart diseases.
Every human being is amazing; made of star dust, the living culmination of a genetic lineage that fades into long forgotten time.
Our ancestors crawled from a pond, evolved into numerous forms, and you are who you are today because the cosmos created each of us through an incredible mystery of gestation.
To be alive is to be epic—here are some tips to recognize and unleash the epicness within.
1. Believe in yourself.
Yes. You can do that—and anything else your heart guides you to do.
2. Embody your Soul. Act Now.
We can do more than get laid, be pretty, earn money or make a name for ourselves. You could cure cancer. You might be the next Leonardo Da Vinci, or Nikola Tesla. Your very thoughts, if written and shared, could change the course of humanity. You can do that, and more than you can imagine. Embody the dreams your heart whispers in the night.
3. Share your soul.
Knowledge is common. So are words. But your soul, its unique in all of the universe. It’s one of a kind. The pure special place of who you are is completely one-of-a-kind. When we express and share that pure essence of Self, a fire of hope is ignited in all around you. Be the light of hope and inspiration, and the world is changed.
4. Stop Seeking, Start Being.
Life is the greatest gift, and rather than trying to figure out what life is about, live that life … to its fullest. Carpe diem, in service to family, tribe and the world. Who you are is the most precious gift possible, and you don’t have to find you. You already are you. When in doubt, see Epic tip #1.
5. Value your Death.
It’s going to happen. Your body will die. Stop screwing around and take responsibility for the air you breath and water you drink. Respect your ancestors and the infinite amount of time that has passed to make the very unique you that you are. Act now, because your time is already up.
6. Respect Life.
Every living thing is alive and has the right to live. Whether a human, or a tree. Life is not a resource, it is a gift. In loving and valuing that gift, all possibility opens.
7. Have integrity.
Don’t waste the precious time given to others. Speak authentically. Be vulnerable. Share wisdom. Move on, move on, time is scarce. The worst that can happen is death. Integrity is power, and power can shake the foundations of the universe.
8. Be Courageous.
Time is the most precious resource. Death claims all before any are ready. Be yourself, now. Stop seeking, now. Act, now. Death may happen at any moment, even now. Your gifts are needed, now. Fear isn’t even worth fearing. Offer your soul in service to life, and become immortal. And Epic.
Remember today, for it is the beginning.
Today marks the start of a brave new future.
Here it is, a positive ‘to-do’ list for the upcoming year – 30 things to start doing for yourself:
1. Start spending time with the right people.
These are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways. They are the ones who make you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be, unconditionally.
2. Start facing your problems head on.
It isn’t your problems that define you, but how you react to them and recover from them. Problems will not disappear unless you take action. Do what you can, when you can, and acknowledge what you’ve done. It’s all about taking baby steps in the right direction, inch by inch. These inches count, they add up to yards and miles in the long run.
3. Start being honest with yourself about everything.
Be honest about what’s right, as well as what needs to be changed. Be honest about what you want to achieve and who you want to become. Be honest with every aspect of your life, always. Because you are the one person you can forever count on. Search your soul, for the truth, so that you truly know who you are. Once you do, you’ll have a better understanding of where you are now and how you got here, and you’ll be better equipped to identify where you want to go and how to get there. Read The Road Less Traveled.
4. Start making your own happiness a priority.
Your needs matter. If you don’t value yourself, look out for yourself, and stick up for yourself, you’re sabotaging yourself. Remember, it IS possible to take care of your own needs while simultaneously caring for those around you. And once your needs are met, you will likely be far more capable of helping those who need you most.
5. Start being yourself, genuinely and proudly.
Trying to be anyone else is a waste of the person you are. Be yourself. Embrace that individualinside you that has ideas, strengths and beauty like no one else. Be the person you know yourself to be – the best version of you – on your terms. Above all, be true to YOU, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.
6. Start noticing and living in the present.
Right now is a miracle. Right now is the only moment guaranteed to you. Right now is life. So stop thinking about how great things will be in the future. Stop dwelling on what did or didn’t happen in the past. Learn to be in the ‘here and now’ and experience life as it’s happening. Appreciate the world for the beauty that it holds, right now.
7. Start valuing the lessons your mistakes teach you.
Mistakes are okay; they’re the stepping stones of progress. If you’re not failing from time to time, you’re not trying hard enough and you’re not learning. Take risks, stumble, fall, and then get up and try again. Appreciate that you are pushing yourself, learning, growing and improving. Significant achievements are almost invariably realized at the end of a long road of failures. One of the ‘mistakes’ you fear might just be the link to your greatest achievement yet.
8. Start being more polite to yourself.
If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend? The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. You must love who you are or no one else will.
9. Start enjoying the things you already have.
The problem with many of us is that we think we’ll be happy when we reach a certain level in life – a level we see others operating at – your boss with her corner office, that friend of a friend who owns a mansion on the beach, etc. Unfortunately, it takes awhile before you get there, and when you get there you’ll likely have a new destination in mind. You’ll end up spending your whole life working toward something new without ever stopping to enjoy the things you have now. So take a quiet moment every morning when you first awake to appreciate where you are and what you already have.
10. Start creating your own happiness.
If you are waiting for someone else to make you happy, you’re missing out. Smile because you can. Choose happiness. Be the change you want to see in the world. Be happy with who you are now, and let your positivity inspire your journey into tomorrow. Happiness is often found when and where you decide to seek it. If you look for happiness within the opportunities you have, you will eventually find it. But if you constantly look for something else, unfortunately, you’ll find that too. Read Stumbling on Happiness.
11. Start giving your ideas and dreams a chance.
In life, it’s rarely about getting a chance; it’s about taking a chance. You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work. Most of the time you just have to go for it! And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be. Either you succeed or you learn something. Win-Win.
12. Start believing that you’re ready for the next step.
You are ready! Think about it. You have everything you need right now to take the next small, realistic step forward. So embrace the opportunities that come your way, and accept the challenges – they’re gifts that will help you to grow.
13. Start entering new relationships for the right reasons.
Enter new relationships with dependable, honest people who reflect the person you are and the person you want to be. Choose friends you are proud to know, people you admire, who show you love and respect – people who reciprocate your kindness and commitment. And pay attention to what people do, because a person’s actions are much more important than their words or how others represent them.
14. Start giving new people you meet a chance.
It sounds harsh, but you cannot keep every friend you’ve ever made. People and priorities change. As some relationships fade others will grow. Appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work. Trust your judgment. Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory. Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever.
15. Start competing against an earlier version of yourself.
Be inspired by others, appreciate others, learn from others, but know that competing against them is a waste of time. You are in competition with one person and one person only – yourself. You are competing to be the best you can be. Aim to break your own personal records.
16. Start cheering for other people’s victories.
Start noticing what you like about others and tell them. Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. So be happy for those who are making progress. Cheer for their victories. Be thankful for their blessings, openly. What goes around comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you.
17. Start looking for the silver lining in tough situations.
When things are hard, and you feel down, take a few deep breaths and look for the silver lining – the small glimmers of hope. Remind yourself that you can and will grow stronger from these hard times. And remain conscious of your blessings and victories – all the things in your life that are right. Focus on what you have, not on what you haven’t.
18. Start forgiving yourself and others.
We’ve all been hurt by our own decisions and by others. And while the pain of these experiences is normal, sometimes it lingers for too long. We relive the pain over and over and have a hard time letting go. Forgiveness is the remedy. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life.
19. Start helping those around you.
Care about people. Guide them if you know a better way. The more you help others, the more they will want to help you. Love and kindness begets love and kindness. And so on and so forth.
20. Start listening to your own inner voice.
If it helps, discuss your ideas with those closest to you, but give yourself enough room to follow your own intuition. Be true to yourself. Say what you need to say. Do what you know in your heart is right.
21. Start being attentive to your stress level and take short breaks.
Slow down. Breathe. Give yourself permission to pause, regroup and move forward with clarity and purpose. When you’re at your busiest, a brief recess can rejuvenate your mind and increase your productivity. These short breaks will help you regain your sanity and reflect on your recent actions so you can be sure they’re in line with your goals.
22. Start noticing the beauty of small moments.
Instead of waiting for the big things to happen – marriage, kids, big promotion, winning the lottery – find happiness in the small things that happen every day. Little things like having a quiet cup of coffee in the early morning, or the delicious taste and smell of a homemade meal, or the pleasure of sharing something you enjoy with someone else, or holding hands with your partner. Noticing these small pleasures on a daily basis makes a big difference in the quality of your life.
23. Start accepting things when they are less than perfect.
Remember, ‘perfect’ is the enemy of ‘good.’ One of the biggest challenges for people who want to improve themselves and improve the world is learning to accept things as they are. Sometimes it’s better to accept and appreciate the world as it is, and people as they are, rather than to trying to make everything and everyone conform to an impossible ideal. No, you shouldn’t accept a life of mediocrity, but learn to love and value things when they are less than perfect.
24. Start working toward your goals every single day.
Remember, the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. Whatever it is you dream about, start taking small, logical steps every day to make it happen. Get out there and DO something! The harder you work the luckier you will become. While many of us decide at some point during the course of our lives that we want to answer our calling, only an astute few of us actually work on it. By ‘working on it,’ I mean consistently devoting oneself to the end result. Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
25. Start being more open about how you feel.
If you’re hurting, give yourself the necessary space and time to hurt, but be open about it. Talk to those closest to you. Tell them the truth about how you feel. Let them listen. The simple act of getting things off your chest and into the open is your first step toward feeling good again.
26. Start taking full accountability for your own life.
Own your choices and mistakes, and be willing to take the necessary steps to improve upon them. Either you take accountability for your life or someone else will. And when they do, you’ll become a slave to their ideas and dreams instead of a pioneer of your own. You are the only one who can directly control the outcome of your life. And no, it won’t always be easy. Every person has a stack of obstacles in front of them. But you must take accountability for your situation and overcome these obstacles. Choosing not to is choosing a lifetime of mere existence.
27. Start actively nurturing your most important relationships.
Bring real, honest joy into your life and the lives of those you love by simply telling them how much they mean to you on a regular basis. You can’t be everything to everyone, but you can be everything to a few people. Decide who these people are in your life and treat them like royalty. Remember, you don’t need a certain number of friends, just a number of friends you can be certain of.
28. Start concentrating on the things you can control.
You can’t change everything, but you can always change something. Wasting your time, talent and emotional energy on things that are beyond your control is a recipe for frustration, misery and stagnation. Invest your energy in the things you can control, and act on them now.
29. Start focusing on the possibility of positive outcomes.
The mind must believe it CAN do something before it is capable of actually doing it. The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful. Listen to your self-talk and replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Regardless of how a situation seems, focus on what you DO WANT to happen, and then take the next positive step forward. No, you can’t control everything that happens to you, but you can control how you react to things. Everyone’s life has positive and negative aspects – whether or not you’re happy and successful in the long run depends greatly on which aspects you focus on. Read The How of Happiness.
30. Start noticing how wealthy you are right now.
Henry David Thoreau once said, “Wealth is the ability to fully experience life.” Even when times are tough, it’s always important to keep things in perspective. You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night. You didn’t go to sleep outside. You had a choice of what clothes to wear this morning. You hardly broke a sweat today. You didn’t spend a minute in fear. You have access to clean drinking water. You have access to medical care. You have access to the Internet. You can read. Some might say you are incredibly wealthy, so remember to be grateful for all the things you do have.
“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” ~ Tony Robbins
Recently I’m looking for a new home here in Berlin. Since we are looking to become a family soon, it’s time for a change. The market has gotten a lot tougher here in the last 2 years, which was when I first moved here. Many good homes are gone or overly pricy now.
Still, finally we thought we found something right. So we made the deal only to realize the day after that if you are really it’s just too loud with the traffic outside, especially for a family. So we want to get out again and have produced a bit of a mess all by ourself.
It wasn’t a good decision.
That kept me wondering how this really bad decision could’ve happened in the first place?
What’s a Real Decision?
The word ‘decide’ itself comes from Latin and means ‘to cut off’. Making a real decision means to come to a moment of truth and cut off everything but the one way you will go. From then on you don’t look back but go your one way.
So in a sense, making a good decision is like cleaning the house, it can create a lot of clarity and fresh energy. On the other hand, making a bad decision – as in my case above with the new home – will probably create more confusion as there was in the first place.
Especially when the decision is more complex it can be important to first define exactly what are you going to decide about.
So making a good decision has always 4 phases:
1. Define Exactly the Decision to Be Made
2. Gather Information
3. Make the Decision
4. Execute the Decision
Especially gathering information can get tricky. You can either dismiss it too early and not look at all factors, as in my new home case where we didn’t looked at the noisiness of the place, especially at night. Or you can overdo your information gathering and end up in a kind of paralysis by analysis.
And after you made a decision it’s important not fall back and question your decision again. You probably know that scenario well, when you made a really difficult decision and afterwards you are in doubt if it was REALLY the right decision?! Doing that takes away a lot from the power of your decision and would cost you lots of emotional energy. So after you made the decision you need a bit of self-discipline to not go back anymore.
Fortunately we can train our decision-making ability. So if you make decisions a lot, it will get much easier and faster for you.
For the actual process of making a good decision, here is what works for me:
How to Make the Right Decision?
1. Listen to Your Heart
From my own experience I learned over and over again that with big decisions always go with your heart.
That means always listen to what is not necessarily at the top of your mind, but what your conscience whispers you about the decision to be made. Look at the reasons where these “whispers” come from. Are they based on fear? Do they try to protect you, maybe from growing? Or are they based on experience and on a deeper truth that you can sense from the inside?
In my new home scenario, I simply wasn’t satisfied with any of the offers. So my heart didn’t tell me something is right. That’s an interesting situation when you are faced with only “bad” options for your decision. More on that below…
2. What Are the Important Factors?
The second part is to use your mind. Get clear about what factors are important, most important, and what is of lesser importance for you. Make sure to get all the important facts.
Always make sure that your important decisions are in line with your current reality and with your long-term goals.
The Decision Matrix
If you want you can create a so-called decision matrix (more about weighted decision matrix) which I used in the past with good impact. The thing is of course not to get lost and make your decision solely on these mind-based analysis, which obviously entails the danger of getting to theoretically and emotionally detached.
In my bad decision above I 1) didn’t realize that the environmental noise is such a big factor for a good home and also 2) didn’t gather enough information to realize that it is in fact too loud at the place. The reason for that was because you didn’t follow rule 3 and 4:
3. Take Your Time
Pressure can speed things up, but it is always a bad counselor to make a decision. When you feel overwhelmed or even pressured try to step back and get some room to think clearly. Taking some time and a step back is generally a good idea. It can help to get a clear head again and look fresh at something.
This is especially true when you feel emotionally trapped in some way. Let’s say you are feeling down or you are unsatisfied with the options you have. Try to take some room and time to make a sound decision for all involved.
4. Know What’s Right for YOU
When there are more than one person involved it can get tricky to find the right compromise. Compromise is not the best word, since it already suggests that the people involved have to give in to their ideals one way or the other.
So what I really mean is to find a synergy. A synergy is when the sum of the parts is greater than the single parts alone. It’s not always possible but it’s worth looking for.
In any way, make sure that you keep your own needs in front of you.
5. Look Out for New Options
If you feel there are no good options, those that would really satisfy you, maybe there are other options our there. Maybe you need to reframe the situation and take a different angle to look at it!? Maybe you have to wait and look deeper.
The decision of whether you have to wait for better options or to get what is right in front of you is always difficult and more an art than anything else. When in doubt, I always go back to point 1 and look what my heart is telling me.
On the other hand, if you are faced with too many possibly ways to go, try to compare them to each other and eliminate all but the very best options.
Not Deciding is a (Bad) Decision Too
Sometimes it’s so difficult that you can’t really make a decision. Remember that without a conscious decision you lose control over the situation and it then controls you. So not deciding is almost never a good option.
So coming back to my example of renting the wrong home, with this decision I failed in point 3, 4 and 5. I felt pressured, did not listen 100% to my very own needs and I also had the feeling of running out of options, which wasn’t true of course.
How do you make your decisions and what were difficult decisions you made in the past?
”A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so out of control that you have to transform your life…”
– Elizabeth Gilbert
Never miss an opportunity to make others happy, even if you have to leave them alone in order to do it. ~Author Unknown
A fellow who does things that count, doesn’t usually stop to count them. ~Variation of a saying by Albert Einstein
Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see. ~Mark Twain
Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for a kindness. ~Seneca
A kind word is like a Spring day. ~Russian Proverb
Kindness is in our power, even when fondness is not. ~Samuel Johnson
It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love for your dream for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon…
I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals or have become shrivelled and closed from fear of further pain.
I want to know if you can sit with pain mine or your own without moving to hide it
or fade it or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy mine or your own if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful to be realistic to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true.
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day.
And if you can source your own life from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure yours and mine and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes.”
It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done to feed the children.
It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.
It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.
“Some days we will be happier than others. And some periods of time we will be more successful than other times. The key to real success is to be the best you can be in any situation, and never assume you’ve arrived.”
from Daily Kabbalah Tune Up: Be the Best
Long time no see :))) But there I am …and will appear more soon
I always love to share good knowledge and specially in visual way.
And today I share with you Success can be seen in different ways material, personal and spiritual.
I would like you to see this image below and apply it to your area in life:)
may your life be happy and true
| 72 Name of the Week
39. DIAMOND IN THE ROUGH
Here I accomplish nothing less than the complete transformation of negative situations into positive opportunities and blessings.
Manna rains down upon me.
Life begins to taste like anything my soul desire or imagines.
Transformation in an Instant
December 11th – December 18th, 2011
Sometimes it seems as if spiritual growth takes place very slowly. We do our spiritual work, we strive to restrict our negative urges, and we develop ourselves as sharing human beings, yet there is always more to be done.
However, the energy of this week is such that transformation does not always need to be a long drawn out process. It can happen in an instant.
No matter what situation you may find yourself in, no matter how low this email may find you, you need to know that you can rise to great heights in the blink of an eye.
Your logic will tell you otherwise, the physical needs or lacks you might be suffering from will scoff at this notion, but nonetheless it is possible.
Moreover, it is our very certainty of this possibility that enables it to occur.
Any time you find yourself feeling hopeless or beyond redemption, repeat to yourself: Transformation in an instant…transformation in an instant.
The effort we put into stopping our reactive thoughts will allow us to connect to the very energy that can truly set us free. Easy? Not by a long shot. Possible? Without a doubt.
This is both a beautiful teaching, and a powerful spiritual tool that goes to the very core of what Kabbalah is all about. I hope you use it to the fullest this week.
All the best,
Imagine living every day with unbelievable clarity. Where everything you feel, say, want, think and do is aligned and directed toward one powerful outcome.
Imagine you are the only one who can be responsible and therefore in control of your life.
Imagine knowing that you are the master of your experience and that you are totally in control of each moment of your life.
Gaselle inspired by words from Date with Destiny event www